MISTAKE #1 Refusing Oral Sex
Well, this may be contentious, but I'll say it anyway. Most women don't really understand how important oral sex is to men. It isn't some crazy ass male desire to make u feel crazy. Men love oral sex because the intimacy and trust of the act is signals your love. Oral sex is not just a sign of accepting his penis, but also signals to him your total acceptance of him as a man: in his mind this may be an act of the greatest possible intimacy.
MISTAKE #2 Boring
Leaving him responsible for your orgasm. You know what gets you off. Tell him. If you don't, it's your own fault when he's snoozing and you're all wound up.
MISTAKE #3 Being Selfish
Sex is NOT just about us.
MISTAKE #4 Being Boring
Not moving at all. Missionary is not an excuse to do nothing.
MISTAKE #5 Expectations
Expecting him to undress you. You put a bra on almost every day. You know for a fact that getting them off isn't always easy. Help him out.
MISTAKE #6 The Bored Look
Getting that bored look on your face. Men are more visual than women. Give him something to look at. Get on top and arch your back a little bit. Move. Do something to indicate that you 1) are not dead and 2) didn't suffer a minor stroke rendering you unable to move.
MISTAKE #7 Acting Like He's A Mind Reader Or Giving Clues About What You Want
For example, if you want oral sex, ask him to go down on you. If you're embarrassed about it, use language which makes your meaning clear: "I'd like you to kiss my flower". Lol. And, though you may find it difficult, if he's working on bringing you to orgasm, he'll need feedback to make sure he carries on enthusiastically. Losing your self in your bliss and not saying anything will make him wonder if you're asleep, dead or uninterested, at which point he'll most likely stop.
MISTAKE #8 Being A Bitch When You Dont Get what You Want
If your kissing for a few minutes, and he wants to just get it on right then and their, and you get mad. Then you need to educate him about what you want. Men are much more quickly aroused than women. One great way to do this is to make sure you get an orgasm before you have intercourse. And you can always distract him with a spot of fellatio, or by licking him all over. As a woman you're likely to be more creative than he is, so maybe you can apply your creative skills to sex, and improve it for both of you!
MISTAKE #9 Bitching When He Suggests Something New
It’s natural to want to spice things up with a little variety. Just because your man wants to try something new doesn’t mean he’s unhappy with you or your sex life. In short: Don’t take it personal girl. If its something your not comfortable with let him know.
MISTAKE #10 Not Realizing That "WOMEN COME FIRST"
Men lose interest very rapidly after they have a orgasm. Like it or not, that's how they are biologically built (in fact they are programmed to sleep after sex) and unless they're especially sensitive, once they've come, they won't be much interested in your satisfaction. Make sure you get yours hunny. Lol.
MISTAKE #11 Being Negative About Your Body
This erases your chances of having a orgasm. When you start hiding your body during sex, or refusing to enjoy certain sexual positions because you fear what he might think of your body, he's likely to get TURNED OFF very quickly. DONT RIP OFF YOUR CLOTHES CUT THE LIGHTS OFF AND DODGE INTO THE BED. Do affirmation to yourself. Look and the mirror and scream I AM SEXY. The blow a kiss to yourself. Lol.
MISTAKE #12 Neat Freak
Changing the sheets immediately so you can get the other ones in the washer and then sanitizing everything your naked body might have possibly passed by is not the way to do it.
MISTAKE #13 Being Predictable
Refusing to take control. Its ok to crawl across a bed to him on all fours, push him down and crawl on top. It's not his responsibility to start things all the time.
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